Monday, April 22, 2013

How Do You Know If "The Guy" Is Cheating Or Is Faithful ????

 1. He’s super protective of his gadgets. “The main way that trysts are found out is through the discovery of incriminating e-mails, IM chats, cell phone texts or bills,” says Belisa Vranich, PsyD, a clinical psychologist in New York City. So if he’s being unfaithful, he may guard his gadgets or act really defensive when you innocently touch his phone or computer. It should be a giant red flag if he readily gave you passwords

2. He steps up the grooming.This is so obvious, but it’s a sign many women miss: If your man starts grooming down there without you requesting it, that could be an indication that he’s spending more time naked,” says Vranich. You can actually thank porn for this tipoff. Guys today are used to viewing manscaped dudes onscreen, so if he has another chick to impress with his sexual prowess, he may emulate those ultra-trimmed guys. Another clue: He’s spending more time at the gym. 
 
3. He smells different. “When he comes home, if he doesn't smell the same as he did in the morning, and it isn't the scent of soap in the gym or at your home, it may be because he’s showered at her place,” offers Vranich. So pay attention, because in this case, that old saying “the nose knows” might very well be true

 4. Nothing fazes him anymore. “If he was short-tempered before, a combination of added sex and attention could be making him way more relaxed, even downright giddy,” Vranich says. Adds Mira Kirshenbaum, author of When Good People Have Affairs: Inside the Hearts and Minds of People in Two Relationships: “If your guy is suddenly going around all happy and whistling, then you need to find out why.” 


5. He becomes suspicious of you. “If he’s normally a mellow type, all of a sudden he may want to know where you are all the time and with whom,” says Vranich. “It’s the result of him realizing that if he’s cheating and it’s not that hard, you might also be getting away with it.” Also, beware of extremely detailed responses to even your most innocent “How was work today?” queries. He may be preparing epic answers because he’s terrified of getting caught.

One caveat: If your sex life hasn't fallen off, that’s no guarantee that he’s faithful. “It’s a serious mistake to think that affairs are necessarily sexual. He may just be unhappy in other parts of the relationship,” says Kirshenbaum. In fact, an illicit relationship could even stoke his lust for you. 


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  2. Edited for spelling. As a guy who has never cheated or plans on cheating, this actually makes a lot of sense. However, how would a guy know if his girl was cheating (Not at all saying I'm suspicious of mine haha)? But good post!

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  3. I think the same would apply for the ladies as well. But personally, women hide things way better than some guys do , not saying she might be good at cheating in this case but it would be hard to distinguish if she was cheating or not & thanks.

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  4. these are some interesting things that do make perfect sense once you think about it. After these things occur and you think about it you would then say to yourself, "well duh, why else did i think he was doing that" lol

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    1. I know what you...we all have that little voice in our head that wants to believe he isnt but you cant be "boo boo the fool" in certain situations.

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  5. always trust your gut! if you think that he is, then check into that. But if you don't think that he is, then let it be! good advice

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